Yay! We were finally able to buy a lap-top. So here I am, officially back in the blogging world. And what have I chosen to write about after my long time away from the blogging world ???????
None other than ...............................THE BACHELOR !!!!!!!
For those of you who are faithful watchers of , "The Bachelor" where I am sure you invite your closest "peeps" and your BFF's to coo and drool over the handsome single hottie while munching on chocolate covered cinnamon bears and other high-carb foods, hear me out.
Admittingly, last night's episode (which was the "final rose ceremony"....LAME!!!!) was my first and only look into this seasons edition. I am so grateful that in the end I only wasted 3 hours of my time last night instead of 1 hour each monday while the show ran.
Before I offend anyone too much by backing the show in a corner and ripping it a new one let me explain why I am so quick to batter it. I will admit that although it is extremely entertaining to watch with all of the caddiness girls can bring to reality T.V. when fighting over a man, it is also very fascinating. Who would actually put themselves in that position? Immediately, before the show starts I lose huge amount of respect for anyone so willing to line up like a peice of good steak in a butcher shop, just so some single guy can pick you, prod you, kiss you, as you willing give your heart to him on a silver platter along with 20 other women!!!!!!!! Then to act surprised when it is over and all you are left with is a pretty dress, a broken heart, and a new STD! DUUUHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!! What the crap did you expect?!?!?!?!?!?
So I make my case with the following points:
If you stick any two people together on a tropical island, hand feed each-other papaya, and have dates every day like sailing off into the sunset and, oil rub down massages, I am pretty sure you are bound to have some feelings. Heck, you could stick me on on island with Richard Simmons for 6 weeks, feeding eachother chocolates, horseback riding in the surf of the ocean, while he shows me his latest moves to "dance your fat off" and I would probably fall head over heels. - I'm sure 6 weeks later I would come to my senses, after I have been ripped form my tropical paradise, am eating McDonalds with my new found love, in sweat pants and a T- shirt, while fighting over who was supposed to take out the garbage, (not to mention the fact that Richard is gay and it would have never worked out, not so much because of the gay thing, but because I could never date a man whose shorts are shorter than mine!).
- Not so pretty or romantic now, are we???? Reality of life sets in, you find that your signicant other isn't so perfect, life isn't just rainbows and unicorns and in all actuality can be pretty boring and, well,...... normal. Which isn't a bad thing at all, I will get to that point later on.
- So after realizing life isn't always love on a tropical island, you start doubting your decision. Afterall the other girl you sent home broken hearted and crying, never farted in front of you or had morning breath, or admitted she loved popping her zits! She was fun on all those amazing dates, dressed top-notch every day, and cooked amazing meals and rubbed your feet while singing you her newly composed love song she wrote especially for you. Oh CRAP!!!!!!!! You chose the wrong one.
No you didn't, fool!!!! It's called reality, something ABC, NBC, CBS or any other television forgot to explain before you signed up for this, that although it may be called,"reality T.V." there isn't one ounce of reality about it!
I am here to defend marriage!!!! It is THE most important decision that will either bring you eternal joy with it's up's and downs included, or it will bring eternal suffering. Marriage isn't meant to be easy, otherwise God would never have commanded that a man and women join together in the bounds of the everlasting covenants. He knew it would help prepare us, teach us, humble us and refine us. That doesn't sound to romantic or exciting, does it????? Well, it is.
There is something great about normalcy and consistency. I will try my best to explain by using what I have learned from the boys I dated growing up. (don't worry, no names)
Boyfriend A, as I will refer to him was amazing! Not the cutest but by far the sweetest! ALWAYS spoiling me, taking me out on dates, buying me flowers, writing me poems, drawing pictures of me, It was wonderful for the first few months but then I got tired of it. It was too much of a good thing. There never was much of any crap or just normal watching a movie dating, or seeing eachother at are worst, always perfect, to the point that it made "perfect" seem so everday normal that it could never get any better. There was nothing to look forward to. Every flower had been bought, every dollar had been spent, every poem had been spouted out, every chocolate eaten. We got bored with eachother, and hence, we broke up.
It would be like the CEO of Hershey's coming over to your house and telling you that you will be eating nothing but chocolate every day for every meal for the rest of your life. It would be amazing for a while but then you would get tired of it and would crave for some yummy home cooked normal spaghetti dinner, or even Top Ramen. (although Keelee begs to differ and has openly admitted that she would love eating chocolate every day for the rest of her life)
After boyfriend A, we move to
Boyfriend B. The complete opposite of boyfriend A. He was way good looking, but major lacking in the chivalary department. Never spouted out a poem, complimented me, took me on a "real" date, bought me presents, fed me chocolates, etc...... I think I stuck around with him because it at first was liberating to not feel so taken care of. So what that he didn't get my door, I am a strong independant girl, I can get my own door, and who cares that he never offered to pay for my meal, it is a new day and age, we shouldn't expect guys to fork over money for us. The lack of
not enough charm wore on me and we broke up!
Next would be
boyfriend C. A great combination of A & B with some added bonuses. Took me out on dates, but could still chill and hang out, complimented me enough, but didn't make me feel like i was being lied to by telling me I was drop-dead gorgeous when i was PMS-ing, bloated, broken out, crampy& onery . Brought me flowers on occasion, just enough to appreciate them, and wrote me notes with simple messages expalining his feelings. We enjoyed eachothers company, had the same goals in life and had amazing chemistry. Butterflies are a good thing to feel in your tummy when dating! Hence, Boyfriend C became my husband. Yes I am refering to my darling James.
I still get excited everday to know that he will come through the doors around 4:30 p.m. and give me a hug and a kiss. I love that since having kids most of our date nights have been reduced to a Blockbuster rental and popcorn, or a night of Skip-bo, and we still have a good time. It makes the amazing date nights even more amazing!!!! I love that he knows me so well he can finish my sentence, or that I can tell a joke he would say even if I don't think it is very funny. I love that we can disagree and get in a heated debate over stupid things but know that we will still love eachother in the end. I love that he thinks I look HOT in my old Taylorsville High Sweat shirt with my hair pulled back in a bun. Our relationship is enough of a good thing to make it perfect for us, yet has a bit of normalcy and conflict (for lack of a better word) to keep it interesting.
Elder Dean L. Larsen of the Presidency of the Seventy has said: “Marriage is not an easy venture. It is largely a one-time-through, do-it-yourself project for the husband and wife. I repeatedly encounter the illusion today, especially among younger people, that perfect marriages happen simply if the right two people come together. This is untrue. Marriages don’t succeed automatically. Those who build happy, secure, successful marriages pay the price to do so. They work at it constantly.” (Ensign, March 1985, p. 20.)
I love this quote and second it! Your marriage is what you and your spouse make of it. We work at it because we have an eternal perspective. "Where ther is no vision, the people perish." (Proverbs 29:18) Like wise, if there is no vision, a marriage will perish. Don't let yourself get caught up in the media, or the worlds interpretation of what your marriage should be. Make it what YOU & your hubby want it to be! And if you find yourself watching shows like the Bachelor, you too can grin and laugh in knowing that those poor people just don't get it, and you and I can be Grateful that we do!!!!!
